Deployed Operation Iraqi Freedom/Operation Enduring Freedom (OIF/OEF) soldiers face a number of potentially traumatic events that can increase their risk for a number of mental health problems, including posttraumatic stress disorder, depression, and alcohol use. Consequently, much attention has been deservedly placed on how to best help these soldiers adjust when they come home.
However, less attention has been placed on the adjustment of families of deployed soldiers. A recent study found that the pre-teen and teenage children of deployed soldiers experience high levels of anxiety, problems at school, and difficulties adjusting to the return of a parent from war. Non-deployed parent were also found to experience significant levels of distress. You can read more about this study at CNN.com. You can also read another article on this topic at About.com.
Help is out there. The National Center for PTSD provides a wealth of information and resources on how to cope with the deployment of a family member, as well as that family member's return from combat. The Department of Veterans Affairs has also put together a website that includes a wealth of important information designed to help returning soldiers and their families. You can read more about this helpful website in this article from About.com.